I decided to make meatballs for dinner, I called my husband and asked him to bring home sub buns, with some cheese, and when he arrived home, the meatballs were smelling so yummy, and everyone was excited to try my yummy meatball subs. I dished it all up, the subs were awesome, not going to lie, can't wait to make them again. Everyone ate their sub, and shortly after Ryan said Mom, you ready to drive me to work, I said yes hun lets go, so off we went. I said as Ryan got out of the van, where are your glasses, you need your glasses, and he said he didn't feel like wearing them. I yelled out and said that wasn't a good idea, and to put them on. So off he goes in, and I drive away.
Around 10:50 pm I got a message from Luis (Ryan's father) that Ryan fell and he was at the hospital. For the next few minutes I was going back and forth with Luis regarding Ryan's health. Something in my gut told me, this was more then just a sprained ankle etc...I asked Luis are you scared, and he said he is really messed up. I grabbed my purse, ran up told Kevin who was sleeping about what transpired, Kevin was half asleep, I didn't even wait for a reaction, I just grabbed my stuff and left.
I don't think Mike and Patricia Karwowski (brother & sister) knew quite the magnitude of what they did. The decision to take my son to the hospital could have been life or death literally. They decided to take my son to the hospital and for this we will forever be grateful. If you are in No Frills on Vodden and Hwy 10 in Brampton, and you see these kids, let them know just how remarkable they truly are!
What happened was, the weather was awful, it was pouring and raining, and my son was running for Mike's car, his hands were full and he tripped, we believe he tripped up on his shoe and lost his balance. He fell back on his head, and his head ended up taking the brunt of the fall. I am not sure if Mike picked him up, or Ryan got up either way, Mike realized that something was drastically wrong, he was able to locate Luis' number in Ryan's phone, and contacted him right away. By the time the kids got to the hospital, Luis was not far behind them. I then arrived shortly after that.
When I arrived at the hospital, Ryan was delirious, incoherent, bleeding from his head, his mouth, and nose. He was vomiting blood, and I knew right then and there, there was some kind of head injury. He lost his memory, didn't know where he was, what happened, why we were all there etc..Within 1 hour they had us back in the emergency, once we arrived back into emergency Ryan's symptoms worsened. As a mother I felt helpless, I wanted to take away all his pain, why him and not me. There was nothing I could do, they would not give him anything. Once Ryan symptoms started worsening, they took him in shortly thereafter for a head scan.
The doctor came back and said it looked like everything was okay, except there was alot of air around his brain. He said he was going to get the Radiologist to look at the scan. I asked how did the air get to his brain, he said there has to be some kind of fracture, but because of all the air, we are having a difficult time locating the fracture. So as the night went on, the pain my son was in was heartbreaking. They finally gave him some morophine, so he could sleep and get rest. They kept my son on a cot right at the nurses desk watching him all night.
Tues May 8th was the day of my surgery. I was caught between a rock and a hard place, I needed this surgery, I started thinking do I call it off, do I go through with it, I just didn't know what to do. I prayed to God and asked him what I should do, my message was go take care of yourself, so you can be strong for your son. So I went through with the surgery. I stayed until 6 am, went home showered, grabbed my bag, and went back to the hospital. I went and saw my son, and then headed for my surgery.
When I went to visit him prior to my surgery, Luis advised me Ryan had the 3D Head scan in the morning, and it was discovered he has a linear fracture on his skull on the back of his head, with a severe concussion, and his brain was bruised. Luckily they opted out on the staples, or stitches, they felt his head was okay to heal on it's own. Thanks God!
I headed up for my surgery, all went well with my surgery, but all I wanted to do was be with my boy. It broke my heart that the time he needed me most I wasn't available. I felt awful, I felt helpless. But I have to say my ex-husband hardly left his side. I am so blessed to have such a great co-parent in Luis.
Later that day after my surgery, they said I could go see my son, Kev, Brianna, and Kayla wheeled me down. When I saw him, he looked better, I just wanted to be with him. I didn't want to leave him again. But my doctor and nurses said I only had 10 mins. When Kevin wheeled me away, I was emotional, my son needed me, and I needed him. The following day, he didn't want to leave his bed, so I didn't think I was going to get to see him at all on Wednesday May 9th.
In the evening our friends (family) came up to see both Ryan and myself, and we were getting ready to head down to see Ryan, when he surprised me and came up to my room. I was emotional, I was crying, I was so happy to see him. Seeing him up and around meant everything to me. We hugged so tight, and I never wanted to let him go. He looked good, I was happy.
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| Ryan coming up to see me in the hospital |
The affects for Ryan will be dizziness, and headaches for a period of time, but the long term prognosis is good. He will be following up with a Neurologist, and a Plastic Surgeon to ensure his skull is healing properly.
I write this because there has been so much love and kind words surrounding this past week, I just wanted to share from my heart because there has been so much love from everyone.
Hug your children, and tell them you love them, and don't take one day for granted, cuz you just never know...
Thanks Again everyone for all of your thoughts, prayers, and well wishes, all your words have been received with such love.
Love to you all xoxoxo
Shelley
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